This Miraculous Life offers direct access to host Sara Oliveri Olumba's two cents on liberating yourself from the bullshit, and tuning in with the miraculousness of life. Each episode Sara responds to real life problems with practical, some times science-based, and honest solutions for navigating life without losing touch with what it really is - a profound and awesome gift.
Sara has a Master's degree in Positive Psychology - the science of human thriving. And is currently named the "Best Life Coach in Washington DC" for the 2nd year in a row as selected by readers of the Washington City Paper.
Have you ever had a friend in trouble, but not know how to help them? In today’s episode, Sara hears from someone who is concerned that a friend is going to get married to an abusive partner. Looking from the outside-in, it may be obvious how bad or dangerous a relationship has become. However, those involved may not be able to separate passion from poison. In this episode Sara invites Michell Stanley, holistic psychotherapist and licensed social worker to help understand how we can be there for our friends in an extremely difficult situation while still not abandoning ourselves - and how to separate helpfulness from judgement. Finally we will learn what is actually helpful - and what just makes us as the outsider looking in - feel better.
Have you ever felt your insecurities run away from you? Or feel that your flaws were outside of your control? In this week’s episode, our writer, Ugly Duckling, expresses frustration that their appearance is affecting their life, especially professionally. The writer wonders how to make peace with the fact that they may receive fewer opportunities or different treatment due to not being traditionally attractive. In response, Sara discusses ways to build confidence, take initiative, and methods for confronting and coping with unfair treatment. Finally Sara reveals how to liberate yourself from concerns about your looks, once and for all.
Have you ever looked around only to notice all of your friends are either married and talking about kids, or single and talking about getting married? You try to connect and understand them but something tells you that cookie cutter “find a mate, get married, have kids, live happily ever after" life just isn‘t for you. So... if that‘s not for you, then what is? Do you even want a long term relationship? If not about that picture perfect life then what are relationships about? Sara breaks down how to figure out these big life questions - especially when you sense that your answer is different from everyone around you! And ultimately reveals her take on the real WHY behind saying Y or N to a romantic commitment.
Have you met someone attractive and charming, but still struggle to determine whether or not they are a compatible partner for you? Aren’t you supposed to just know when you’ve got a good catch? Not necessarily. When first meeting a potential partner, people may experience a range of emotions: excitement, nerves, lust, etc. Amongst these feelings, how can you really decide if someone is right for you? In today’s episode, Sara hears from a woman who has recently been on a first date, but is unsure of the criteria she should use to decide whether or not to continue on to second or third dates.
"Have you ever felt like social media is sucking away your happiness? Sometimes it’s your best friend and makes a bad day brighter? But other times it’s your worst enemy and diminishes the joy in what would have otherwise been a great day!?
In today’s episode Sara responds to a listener who is trying to navigate the comparison trap that social media brings along with it! A trap that we have all fallen into at some point in this social media era. Sara discusses, in this era, how do we protect our happiness? How do we stop comparing ourselves? And if/ how we can use social media in a way that is conducive to a happy life!"
Have you ever felt lonely? In a society that equates time with money, disdains idleness, and prizes social connections, for many, the simple state of being alone without other people around can be a foreign feeling. But does alone have to mean lonely? Today Sara hears from a career-focused individual who has a strong friend group and an array of social activities to look forward to, but has become aware of their lack of a romantic partner and feels increasingly lonely. In responding, Sara helps the writer explore how they can open themselves up to all the opportunities that may lay before them. The discussion also touches on the importance of not attempting to achieve self-fulfillment with external substitutes.
Pursuing sexual connection is a natural and exhilarating human inclination. However, humans are not only sexual creatures but emotional as well. Can sexual connection be conflated with emotional fulfillment? Does one impact the other? In this episode, Sara responds to a young woman who wants to enjoy her sexuality, but fears that having too many sexual partners may be damaging her emotional well-being. Sara helps the writer sort through some complex questions on balancing a healthy sex life with emotional stability. This episode features special guest Kate Warren, renowned DC photographer and the host of sex podcast: Insert Here!
Most people imagine that they are the master of their own destiny. But what happens when life gets in the way and dreams become just that-- dreams? In this episode, Sara hears from a recently engaged “baker,” who happens to be an accountant. Feeling financially locked into his current profession and life trajectory, this aspiring baker wonders how normal people are actually able to pursue their dreams against a backdrop of other real world responsibilities. Sara proposes some coping strategies to help the baker have a more positive outlook on his current circumstances, as well as some exercises to help him work towards long-term fulfillment. This episode features special guest Jamal Robinson of Desiar Eyewear - local DC entrepreneur and true optimist!
At one time or another, most of us have felt unsatisfied or bored with our professional lives. But what happens when you become paralyzed in your profession and neglect your social life? In this premiere episode, we hear from a “drowning office worker” who has become consumed by an unfulfilling work life but lacks the confidence to pursue other options. The writer has detested their job for some time but seems to be comfortably miserable, and is poisoned with envy and self-loathing for their inability to make the change they want but fear. After years of being an unwilling “yes-man” at work, the writer’s deteriorated social circle and leisure time offer little to no respite from the draining office job. In her response to “comfortably miserable” Sara unpacks questions like “How can I say no to my boss?” “How can I say yes to my friends more?” “How do I start putting myself first again?” The discussion also touches on strategies to manage the fear of change, and challenges those who feel paralyzed to move outside of their comfort bubble where new experiences await
In this episode Sara responds to a “befuddled and disgruntled milennial“ who believes they may be experiencing a quarter life crisis! This episode is for anyone who has ever felt frustrated or stuck in their life. Sara teaches listeners how to identify and liberate themselves from the “demons” that may be holding them back, and how to instead hone in on and orient toward their core values - in other words their own personal formula for thriving.
People in committed relationships often help each other de-stress and share the
burdens of their partner. However, if one or both parties bring too many external
frustrations into the relationship, problems irrelevant to the relationship can cause
In this episode, Sara responds to a “Basket Case Boyfriend,” who feels powerless to
help his girlfriend cope with work troubles, and increasingly annoyed that she seems to
be taking her frustration out on him. The discussion explores when it’s helpful to help
your partner shoulder their external stressors, and when it’s harmful. Sara also goes
over communication strategies to keep extraneous issues from poisoning the